Things you did well and should keep on doing
- Wearing your heart on your sleeve and even though it won’t all go your way, there’s nothing to regret.
- Staying away from unnecessary drama caused by toxic people and finding people who are weird and wonderfully friendly as you are.
- Finding and having creative outlet. Not being afraid of looking stupid or expressing yourself.
- Being resilient in the face of personal struggles. You have been surviving relatively unscathed physically and mentally.
Things you didn’t do so well and could improve on
- Not having a bajillion superannuation accounts. Roll that up into one dude!
- Understanding how to dress, but don’t let it be all consuming for you self conciousness. Like most things, moderation is key.
- Stretching + Cardio + Physio = this will make your body feel so much better
- Read more, watch less – those youtube videos will not add much value to your life (except for this one … and this one)
- Staying in touch with those who are important to you. Just because you aren’t in the same city/country as them, doesn’t excuse you for making an effort.
Things I wish you’d know earlier
- Dating is tiring, take nothing for granted. There will be peaks and troughs, but you’ll come out of it knowing yourself better and what you want.
- It’s impossible to keep everyone happy. It’s ok to put yourself first sometimes.
- Understanding personal finance – being poor sucks, becoming financially independent does not.
- Time is the most valuable thing you have, guard it diligently from those who seek to take it from you for selfish motivation.
You did a little above mediocre, with significant room for improvement. The irony, that the last sentence sounds like it came out of an Asian parent’s mouth hasn’t escaped me.
Going to China, as an ‘independent’ young adult for the first time was eye opening. Being born there, and moving to Australia at a very young age I’m an “inbetweener”.
To my family living there I’m seen as an Aussie, whilst 2nd generation (and over) caucasians don’t see me exactly as ‘Aussie’ (intially anyway). Culturally (on a broader sense), I don’t usually fit in and identify most closely with a relatively small group of the Australian population of 1st generation born in Australia and those growing up in an immigrant household.
Regardless here are a couple observations:
Internet and Smart Phones
- WeChat – China’s facebook absolutely dominates the market. All my aunties and uncles are on it. It has a cashless wallet, payment system and is integrated with China’s Uber (Didi). More and more it seems like it should be mentioned in the context of Facebook being the Western World’s WeChat. What started as a messaging app permeates the daily lives of individuals more greatly than Facebook ever has.
- Due to the Great Firewall, China’s censorship and regulations has made it difficult for big tech companies from the rest of the world to gain traction and adoption. Because of this there are Chinese equivalents of most big players:
- Baidu (Google)
- Ebay (Taobao)
- YouKou (Youtube)
- Sina Weibo (Twitter)
- Alipay (Paypal)
- Most smart phones look like iPhones – product design and innovation isn’t a strong suite right now for China. When I go to mobile phone retailers, there’s a feeling of homogeneity between all smartphone manufacturers
- VPNs – It’s very common for Gen Y and younger to use VPNs which is (as described by a cousin of mine), “A grey area in Chinese Law, but closer to the dark side”. Many use it for accessing their Google accounts, but also for accessing Facebook.
- Television plays a big part of family life
- The TV was on in every household I visited but was what channel what was on varied – the television still seems to be the place where friends and family gather around in the living room of a household
- Besides Sports and News, there was a massive amount of TV dramas
- The majority of the dramas were set in the past, either in a relatively recent historical context or a more romanticised distant past. Very few were set in the present, and none were in the future i.e. sci-fi
- I couldn’t help but feel that the television programming has undertones of propaganda pushing the message of civil obedience.
- Transportation smart cards were implementation over a decade earlier in Shanghai (1999) compared to Sydney (2013). Sydney seems so behind in some areas.
- Shanghai has two types of roads:
- Elevated roads – which are above ground and have no traffic lights and used to travel between different districts. (Click here for a sneak peak.)
- Street roads – which are on ground level used to travel around locally within districts and contain traffic light
- Child care – day cares don’t really exists. Children are usually taken care of by their grandparent’s generation who are retired, whilst the parents are away earning the family’s income
- Schooling – nearly all children go to tutoring which is outside of the normal school hours. This is because the content in exams is significantly more difficult than what is taught. This (broken) system has led to children (who can afford it) going to after school tutoring at least twice a week.
Noticing that I was being offered food constantly in Shanghai by my extended family. I decided to note down each time this happened through out a particular day.
This day is 03/02/2017. An asterisk (*) denotes my acceptance of the offer. Also, note this was a below average offering day. (That last sentence made it sound ritualistic.)
- 0845 – woke up (this was action, not a type of Shanhainese cuisine with a wierd name)
- 0900 – noodles*
- 0908 – coffee
- 0915 – pickled vegetables*
- 0920 – dumplings*
- 0929 – more dumplings
- 1026 – nougat lolly
- 1200 – hotpot*
- 1539 – mandarin*
- 1745 – dinner*
- 2015 – tea*
- 2020 – apple*
- 2145 – tea and fruit
My Asian relatives are jealous of my physique and want me to be fat. But seriously, this is Chinese hospitality.
My next post will be thoughts on the cultural differences and nuances of China I observed compared to Australian culture.